Longtime Haberland family friend Victor duPont recalled Haberland's desperate escape, with her husband Ted, from Russian-occupied eastern Germany in 1945.
The pair had trod "a path fraught with danger and hardship which few if any ever experience," duPont said. But Haberland had emerged with "a quiet strength," a generous, "nurturing" nature, and a twinkle in her eye. Ted Haberland died in 1997.
Haberland's son, also called Ted, made brief reference to the impact on the community of his mother's violent end. But he said, "We must move forward."
He recounted his mother's sympathetic embrace of dozens of German agricultural students who worked at Foxlease Farm, north of Upperville, during the many years when his father served as farm manager. She cooked for them, did their laundry, and "consoled" them just as much as she did her own children, he recalled.
At age 81, Haberland walked six miles a day, her son said, and was deeply involved in the community. A lover of the farming life, she would have appreciated the cornstalks that poked jauntily up from a bouquet at the front of the church, he said.
Although Haberland had lost family, friends and nearly all her possessions in the flight from Europe, her impulse was nothing but generous towards others, Ted Haberland said. "She always wanted the best for everyone." Despite her petite, 5-foot frame, "her arms were very long" for hugging, "and her heart was huge."
"Mom was taken from us before it was time," Ted Haberland said.